I haven’t posted for a while because I have been flat out either with doing stuff for SCA related things, or spending time with friends… This is all very well, I like to get things done, but I can also be very lazy, so having other people guide me on how I spend my time is actually a good thing, as long as they don’t openly use me, or openly make me aware of being used. 
At May crown I was approuched by someone asking if I would quote for making them Pewter tokens for an event they are running. I said “No need to quote, you buy the pewter, and I’ll offer my time and skills for free.” I then asked for a drawing or a sketch of a design. To cut a long story short… On monday I caught up with this person, who told me they had a design on their computer, to which my reply was a casual “Cool! Email it through to me”, at which they snapped at me, telling me they have been asking me to come down to their place and discuss it for 6 weeks, and that if I was going to be difficult then they can find someone else to do it…
Now, to be honest, they had been trying to get me down to their place, and to be more honest… I have been avoiding that trip… Why? Because of two things… Firstly I don’t like being made aware that I’m going out of my way to help someone, and secondly becuase I didn’t really have the time or inclination. Another factor was that I didn’t want to get dragged into this event more than I had previously offered.
That said… I still think it’s rather bad taste to snap at someone offering you a favour because they aren’t willing to totally give of their time to make it happen. Especially when all that I was requesting was a simple email outlining the details of what they wanted before I invested too much time or effort in trying to help.
Suffice to say… I won’t be making those tokens, and I now also won’t be helping out with or possibly even be attending the event in question. Am I wrong?
Nope. I don’t think you’re wrong. You’re well within reason to be miffed here. Some people just don’t get it.
This is true… But then I shouldn’t have been suprized about the reaction, I knew what the person in question was like beforehand. And besides… everyone is different, everyone has a different perspective of life, and of others… I guess I shall forgive them.
… but I won’t forget.
hell no. that’s really arrogant and rude, tell them to shove it. =)
(although in a group like the sca, it’s probably not the best plan)
Sure. Each to their own. And you never know what might be going on in the background. It still dosen’t excuse this sort of thing though.
Absolutely.
(IMHO) Excuses are useless things anyway, they come too late, can’t fix the issue, and are usually only said in a mad backpeddling kinda way.
“I’m Sorry.” says so much more, but then in this day and age of never admitting fault…
I don’t think you’re wrong.
They way I see it is: to that person the most important thing in their life right now is their upcoming event. To you, it’s not.
There was a difference in perspective that couldn’t be married up.
Snappiness on their part was uncalled for and speaks volumes about how they handle stress.
I have always liked the way you think.
Perspective is life… life is perspective. 
Spot on analysis of my side of it anyway… I can’t speak for theirs… but then if I could, it probably wouldn’t have been an issue.
meh, I’ve heard their side and it pretty much runs along the lines of “you should have come over because it was most convenient for me.”
Indeed.
Sure it’s more convenient for them, they don’t have to waste an hour just in travelling, that could be better spent doing other things. 
That’s both rude and cheeky. I’m glad you’re standing your ground and not making the tokens. It sounds like this person possibly doesn’t get stood up to enough.