Over the last few months I have heard a number of people from different aspects of my involvement in both the SCA and Crossroads insist that discussion should be open to all and easily accessible.  I can see why they believe this, but personally I feel slightly differently.  My view is that the important discussions should be open to all but not too easy for the masses to participate in, my reasoning for this is that if we involve everyone who’s even just slightly interested then yes sure, we are likely to get more people getting involved in the discussion, however what happens is that those that do get involved are usually only involved in the discussion when it’s turning up in their email inbox.

If people don’t need to work at something even just a little, if it’s as simple just replying to an email that turns up, then they’re less likely to be invested in what they are discussing, they are more likely to just share their idea’s and move on.  In fact, a lot of these people wouldn’t even bother at all if it wasn’t for the fact that these emails are sent to them.  Email has an uncanny ability to get people involved even if they normally wouldn’t, but is that involvement necessarily a good thing?  Whilst any input is a good thing, people sometimes feel that the input they have contributed is the best way to proceed and they can get into large discussions trying to make people see that their solution is the best solution…  This can just confuse things.  Unless there is someone in control, someone who the buck stops with, then excessive discussion can just prolong moving forward.  Ever heard the term “designed by committee”?  Open discussion by anyone without control is just like having a big committee where there are too many people suggesting their own solution.

For people to actually participate in online decision making, they should have to actually go somewhere specific and have a proper means of making a decision such as a poll.  This is the reason I am pro forums for proper discussion and participation.  They attract those that are actually willing to take the time to go somewhere and read/participate.  They weed out those that don’t have the time or aren’t willing to make the time and allow a better medium for those that want to actually participate.

I have recently been put into a position where my energy and enthusiasm to communicate and get things organised can possibly be put to good use.  I guess my only concerns are that the people I am working with do not share the same energy and enthusiasm which will mean that my expectation to have these people actually communicate and trust either other to share their thoughts without fear may mean that I will be quickly disappointed.

I am someone who does like to discuss things excessively, as I feel that it’s a good way to ensure that most aspects have at least been thought through.  I feel it’s a also a worthwhile process for everyone involved to express an opinion as the only thing that silence indicates is a lack of commitment.  Sure look I understand that sometimes people don’t have the time to get involved, however I believe they need to make the time if they are in a position of responsibility.  Anyway, I guess maybe my expectations probably need to be toned down otherwise I’m going to get rather annoyed and disheartened.

Warning, reading further may be a case of ‘To Much Information’ for a lot of people.  Read on only if you have an open or inquiring mind secure in the knowledge that you have been warned.

AMI, the company that has for the last 3-4 years been marketing a simple solution to premature ejaculation have an interesting marketing campaign.  See quite simply the only people who really need their services are those that aren’t really getting enough sex in the first place, those that don’t have regular partners, or those that get it less than once a week.  Having discussed this issue with a few people, tested the theory myself and having known men at both sides of the spectrum, I believe that the issue is simply a matter of not getting enough sex.  I’m not saying that this is the be all and end all solution, and that this will work for every guy, but women; if your man isn’t lasting as long as you would like, then it might simply be a case of not having sex often enough.  Personally I would suggest 2-3 times in a night, 2-3 times a week.  I’m sure there’s a more scientific explanation, but you won’t hear it from me, instead you’ll here supposition and personal theories…

The penis seems to know the difference between a guys hand and a real woman and I think it really wants a real woman.  So much so that it is so sensitive to the feel of being inside a real woman that when it hasn’t for longer than a week or two it just can’t help but be all excited.  Think about it like this, the sexual response in a man if you cut it right back to animal instinct, is there purely to promote the continuation of his seed.  So the little head is basically going to try and get that seed into the woman as soon as it can just in case it doesn’t get another chance.  The less sex a guy has had, the more chance his little head is going to be desperate to get that seed into the woman.  Therefore ladies, if you pick up a guy whilst out dancing and end up heading back somewhere for some fun, chances are if the guy lasts a long time chances are he probably had some other woman not that long ago, if the first time it was over in a minute or less, then chances are the guy hasn’t been with a woman in at least 2-3 weeks.

This whole sexual performance thing that society and AMI are promoting is simply a means of evening the field when it comes those that have enough and those that don’t.  Now I’m not trying to say what they are selling is a bad thing, or that guys that know the secret to lasting a longer time are a bad thing either.  Hell, I’m not even trying to stand up for those of us that don’t get enough and therefore are well, premature.  All I’m trying to say is that in my opinion there’s an easy natural answer to why it happens, it’s not necessarily a bad thing, it is fixable without drugs and that marketing and society are to blame for it being a bugger issue than it needs to be.  I guess the real question is how does it effect YOU.  For some it might mean a few more hours of enjoyment is needed to bring spice back into a waning relationship, for others it might be a means of making a moralistic or judgement call.  These are only my own opinions and observations, do with this information whatever you choose.

People try and convince me more and more each day that we are Human and not animals; and that we should act more Human…  I still think the  animal instincts in us explain a lot about who we are and why we do the things we do.  No matter how much people try and tell me they don’t and that they shouldn’t, I will always believe this even as culture and civilization try to cover up those instincts.

Wow…  Talk about slackness and procrastination…  The article below was written back in November…  In fact early November.  So, why bring up a failure to publish like this?  why not quietly delete it and hope that no-one ever notices that it was ever started?  Two reasons, firstly; It’s good to acknowledge ones mistakes, then move on and do better next time.  Secondly; This is a blog designed to document well…  me and my life.

It’s amasing how slack and lazy one can get when there is no real reason to get up in the morning. You might start thinking that On no, here comes another whinge about being unemployed, but no, fear not. The reason for this topic of thinking is to throw some idea’s out there, some may be right, some may be wrong… But now they are “Out There” do do doo do!

This follows on from a conversation I had with a friend on Thursday night about the need to get up and do stuff even if you don’t have a job to do. Now this friend was suggesting that you get up at 6am and go for a walk, which is one thing I have always found difficulty in maintaining. I can get up at 6am one or two times in a row and go for a walk, but all it takes is one rainy day or any other excuse not to and I’m back to sleeping till 8… 9… 10am. This friend was suggesting that this is normal behaviour and that it takes someone who’s slightly manic to make it work.

I have no idea where it was going from there, after all, it’s been 3 months.  Meh, maybe I should start getting up and going for a walk each morning again.